So talking about forgiveness (you weren't? Hmm maybe that was me). We all have times when traumatic and difficult (crazy, bizarre) things happen to us (or our children).
Its a process (believe me), but here are some great ways to hopefully, eventually, when enough time has passed to forgive and move on.
Stop trying for a while
If you’re trying hard and haplessly making zero progress, stop trying. Stop
trying and start being. Instead of believing that you are not there yet, be grateful
that you are right where you are meant to be at this moment.
Yes, by all means set goals and take steps in the right direction, but don’t
disregard the steps as you take them – these steps are your life’s story. Let
go
of all the needless trying and let yourself take
these steps peacefully and mindfully. Let go of the judgements, forgive the
past, and let this moment be as incredible as it is.
Be the watcher of your thoughts and emotions
Instead of trying to change our thoughts –
via gratitude or deliberate forgiveness, for example – we need to simply notice
our thoughts without getting caught up in them.
Knowing
that your thoughts and emotions are just fleeting feelings that are independent
of YOU will help ease your tension and increase your positive presence, allowing
you to forgive and let go.
Love
Feeling sorry for yourself and sabotaging the present moment with resentful
thoughts of the past won’t make anything better. Hurting someone else will
never ease your own inner angst.
If you’re disappointed with yourself or frustrated with someone else, the
answer is not to take it out on the world around you. Retribution, whether it’s
focused on yourself or others, brings zero value into your life.
The way beyond the pain from the past is not with vengeance, mockery,
bullying or retaliation, but with present love.
Forgive the past, forgive yourself, forgive others, and love the present
moment for what it’s worth. There are
plenty
of beautiful things to love right now; you just have to want to see them.
Loving is never easy, especially when times are tough, yet it is easily the most
powerful and positively enduring action possible.
If you’re feeling pain, don’t take action that creates even more pain. Don’t
try to cover darkness with darkness. Find the light. Act out of love. Do
something that will enable you to move forward toward a more fulfilling
reality. There is always something good you can do. There is always love to
give. Fill your heart with it and act in everyone’s best interest, especially
your own.
Seek positive revenge by living well (I love this one)
Are you contemplating revenge? You know that’s a negative thinking getting
the best of you. However, there is a way to seek revenge positively.
How? Forget about them. Remember you. Working on a better you is more
fulfilling than hanging on to contempt of others. Let it all go and hold on to
your growth and kindness instead. If you train yourself to consistently be more
loving in thoughts and actions, your positive energy will attract more positive
results into your current reality.
Be unlike the person or situation that hurt you. Let go and grow past your
pain. Carry on living well in a way that creates peace in your heart. The
energy you would spend trying to get real revenge can be better spent creating
an amazing future for yourself.
The bottom line is that the best revenge is happiness, because nothing drives
your adversaries more insane than seeing a fresh smile on your face.
What helps you move on?
I laughed while writing this because an add for
Birdsnest came up on my screen.
I guess if all else fails - go shopping!!